He ain't heavy... he's my brother (photo by eric curtis)
Having a brother with down syndrome who is a full time roommate has been a bit of an adjustment for me… for us… for the whole world really, because we decided we want to jump on the lost cause train and try to change the world.
A lot of people we meet who are fans of the stuff we do don’t realize that Ponce and I have only lived together for the last 3 years. Before that I would only see him a couple of times a year. We talked on the phone a lot, but the face to face bro time was very spread out and something that bugged me a lot. When I pitched the TV segments and got the greenlight I was thrilled that I would finally have my bro spending some good quality time with me, and he’d be doing what he has dreamed of doing for years, acting.
The first 2 years however were quite cramped. My one bedroom apartment in Los Feliz was great for just me. Hard to share with another person. When that person is Ponce, it does make it easier. You get some sweet morning cuddles, a guy who actually likes taking out the garbage, and a smile just about every time you look his way. He’s a very pleasant fellow.
Jobs changed a lot though. I couldn’t take any jobs that had me going away to work for extended periods of time, something I would do every few months, editing on a job or acting, whatever paid the bills. Working as a team it makes taking jobs like that less easy to jump on.
Also, we are brothers, we drive each other crazy sometimes. And Ponce is, and he will agree, a drama queen. A moody little beeyotch. He’s also a night owl, so he tends to not want to do anything in the exert some energy column until after 3 pm. 5pm is better.
The good thing about this brotherly combo is that we do help each other. He has made me more patient.So much so that I didn’t realize how impatient I was before. And I am still very impatient. Just not so much now that Ponce and I are kickin’ it.
Down syndrome is something that can frustrate a person to their wits end. And I have been there. It’s hard to remember that Ponce has down’s a lot of the time because he is so bright and talented it doesn’t seem like there is any kind of limitation there at all. But, there is… it just sneaks in when you least expect it and you don’t even notice why the person who just made the funniest joke you’ve heard all year is also the one who has suddenly forgotten how to tie his shoes.
The move to the bigger place, our new loft in downtown L.A., has really given us new energy and a revitalized desire to do more stuff. Make more videos, make movies, build things… It’s a great haven for creativity.
As frustrating as things get, as tiring as it can be just trying to make ends meet in this world, the one solid rock that is always there is Ponce. And he might be one of the causes of frustration at the time, but he is also the thing that makes me look at situations in my life differently than I did before we became roomies. And he is, in my opinion, the best human on this planet. Love my bro, no matter how many times his gas makes me leave the room while he laughs wickedly at me, I will always be there for him because he is always there for everyone who needs a smile. Except for assholes… he tends to not really dig their company. We see eye to eye on that one.
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